Lead Her to Greatness: Moms and Tween Daughters Building a Legacy of LeadershipÂ
Parenting is leadership.
We want our daughters to grow into confident women who stand their ground, speak with respect and have the confidence to be who they are.
Middle school can feel overwhelming—for daughters and moms—but it doesn’t have to be.
What if this phase became a powerful launchpad?
This program provides guidance, mentorship, and tools for building confidence, resilience, and leadership skills that last a lifetime.
"Confident tweens don't seek acceptance. They create it." -Nik Bowers
 Let's do middle school together.
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What Are Our Girls Learning?
In our community, girls are becoming leaders in their own lives and beyond.
- One girl inspired her entire class to sign a friendship pledge of kindness at the start of the school year.
- Another 6th grader stood up to a mean girl, held firm to her boundaries, and turned conflict into mutual respect.
- One brave girl stood up for a classmate facing mistreatment. Despite initial backlash, she gained confidence, strengthened her values, and even forged a new friendship.
THIS IS LEADERSHIP.
In our groups, girls learn to use their voices with courage, think on their feet, and tackle challenges head-on. They’re ready when it matters most and stronger for it.
The EXCLUSIVE Connect Framework:
Scientifically Proven, Practically Life-Changing
Exclusively available in the Raising Beautiful Messes Mom-Tween Membership, the Connect Framework combines science-backed strategies with real-world practicality to transform your relationship. This step-by-step system helps you and your tween build calm and connection while growing critical skills like emotional regulation, decision-making, and problem-solving. It’s not about perfection—it’s about consistent practice, supported by a framework designed to work in real life.
Phase 1:
THE REACTION
Our first reaction is usually to fight, flight, freeze, or fawn, but we help kids spot the problem and handle it calmly.
This is where most parents want it to stop.
Phase 2:
EMOTIONS (Amygdala)
The reaction runs its course— name the emotion, and give it time. This helps us figure out the real problem and use coping skills to get to the thinking brain.
Parents often stop here and do not teach the next step.
Phase 3:
THINKING BRAINÂ
(Pre Frontal Cortex)
The thinking brain (logic) is where we teach, learn, and grow. By meeting them in their prefrontal cortex, we guide and MODEL how to use decision-making and problem-solving skills to foster growth.
This is where the magic happens and it takes time, practice, and patience.
Eve, Mom of 7th Grader
"I followed the framework, stayed calm, and worked through the process. Later, she snuggled up and apologized on her own. It’s slow and not always easy, but seeing her reflect and take responsibility independently was amazing. Grateful for the progress and for you!"
Start Building The Relationship You Dreamed About Today!
You can keep reacting, feeling stuck in the chaos of tween emotions, wondering why every conversation feels like a battle.
Or you can learn to lead—with calm, confidence, and connection.
I Don't Have Time For A Membership!
Feeling overwhelmed with everything on your plate?
Parenting doesn’t wait for a perfect time, and neither should your support. Get the help you need when it works for you.
Pick what works best for you. No pressure to do it all.Â
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Parenting is leadership—plain and simple.
Here’s the truth: traditional, "DO AS I SAY!" leadership creates walls not bridges.
Leadership starts behind closed doors—in the small, everyday moments where you show her what strength and grace look like.
It’s teaching her to stand her ground, use her voice, and handle life’s challenges with confidence.
You’ve got a choice: do the hard work now, guiding her step by step, or hope she figures it out later.
This membership is here to help. Together, we’ll turn middle school into her launchpad—building the confidence, resilience, and leadership skills she needs to thrive.
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Build Her Future TodayWe Make This Personal For You
Identify the personal challenge.
Every parent-tween needs individual support.
Get expert and practical strategies.
Every mom gets expert guidance and high-value resources, designed to easily fit into even the busiest of schedules.
We create a personalized plan for you.
The membership offers a clear, customizable roadmap with step-by-step strategies moms can adapt for lasting success.
Dana, Mom of Two Girls
“I didn’t realize how much my daughter could be taught to do things for herself, including thinking, and how much confidence that gives her. I am behind, but Nik helps you where you are and we have grown so much already.”
IMAGINE THIS...
One day, your daughter tells you she’s decided to spend less time with a group of friends who were causing unnecessary drama. She explains how she wants to surround herself with people who lift her up and respect her boundaries. As she speaks, you hear wisdom and self-respect far beyond her years.
You feel a sense of relief and happiness, knowing she values herself enough to choose friends who genuinely care for her and that she’s not afraid to walk away from unhealthy relationships.
JOIN THE MEMBERSHIP TODAY!You Get The Course: Ditch The Drama
In 13 lessons, you and your tween will learn to manage yourselves and interact well with others. We start by understanding middle school, then move on to managing emotions, using logic, communicating and holding boundaries, recognizing conflict and bullying, and navigating drama.
The Accelerator and Elite Programs Receive The Library Resources
The Library ResourcesÂ
I am updating and adding made-for-you resources for "just-in-time" learning. Â
What does that mean?Â
You or your tween are struggling with an issue in their growth. We discuss and I create for you a process that leads your child without lecturing. This resource goes in the resource area for other moms.
You and your tween learn.
My expertise is tailored for you.


“Life doesn’t slow down for parenting. That’s why this membership fits into your life on your terms. Together we can build the help and foundation you and your tween needs to thrive when stakes are low, so high school becomes a time of practice.
~Nik Bowers, M. Ed.
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What Parents Are Saying...

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I am a completely different parent than I was 8 months ago. I am more confident and I trust my process and my daughter's.
- Mom of TWO daughters

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There isn't anything like this around. Our home is completely different now and it wasn't as hard as I thought. Knowing Nik is there, gives you confidence.
-Mom of 12-year-old

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I took my time through her course and it is wonderful. Having her support is even better. She knows, understands, and gives.
-Mom of 10-year-old
IMAGINE THIS...
One evening, your daughter approaches you with a dilemma: she’s being invited to a big party, but something about it makes her uncomfortable. Instead of sneaking out or lying, she trusts you enough to talk through her feelings. You both discuss options, and she decides on a choice that aligns with her values. Before heading to bed, she hugs you and says, “Thanks for always being here for me, Mom.”
You feel a deep sense of connection, knowing your relationship has become a true partnership based on trust, open communication, and mutual respect.
Build Her Future TodayMembership Levels To Fit Your Life
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Frequently Asked Questions
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